Human beings are social in nature, we thrive off the togetherness of social iterations, yet we have been slowly moving towards a more individualistic and digitally remote way of life, living in a somewhat global village where our human contact is diminishing right before our eyes. Our attention is given to notifications, emotions and thoughts ‘shared’ online and video conferencing is replacing ‘old fashioned’ meetings.
We define ourselves through technology, “I share, therefore I am” – Sherry Turkle. We have control over how we present ourselves and to a degree, we customise our lives; we get to ‘edit’ and we get to ‘delete’, using technology to clean up the mess of real conversation.
Our constant online connection is reshaping our way of being, slowly expecting more from technology and less from others; increasingly isolating ourselves. Has this pandemic created the lack of connectivity and togetherness or have we done it to ourselves?
In order for us to feel a sense of connection, we need to first cultivate the capacity for solitude. Solitude is where we get to know ourselves, where we find and understand ourselves; what drives us, what inspires us, what excites us. It gives us a platform to form our sense of selfworth, instead of turning to others as spare parts to build it from the outside in. Being alone or in solitude should not be viewed as a problem but as a gift. It gives us space and time to tune in to our surroundings, free from distraction.
“Embrace this time alone, you are not alone in being alone.”
Let’s explore dividualism and reciprocal determinism. Two theories that suggest we are interconnected, in a rhythmic dance with the people and environment we surround ourselves with i.e. not completely separate or energetically ‘individual’.
In some highly-connected cultures, there is an underlying notion of dividualism, where we view people as connected, we embrace interdependence and value each person, not as an individual, but for their relationship with the world around them; how they co-exist and rebound off their surroundings. The concept of bidirectional influence.
We need to reconsider how we view and use this time. We need to develop our selfawareness, be honest with ourselves and notice our environment. We may not be physically connected but, energetically, we are. We are vibrating bodies living in a sea of energy, every part of which is vibrating. Even those things which seem to be still are vibrating. All the actions of our lives are controlled in their speed, rhythm, timing, and quality by the surrounding vibrational influences of our environment. Once we get our heads around this and that our every action carries an energetic quality, we begin to understand that we are all connected, always. And In order for us to feel this connectivity or togetherness, we need to take responsibility for the quality of energy we emanate; consciously working together to create a wake of harmony between us.